“I don’t need you to give me a solution I just need you to listen.” many a woman has shouted this at a man after he has tried to help her resolve the negative feelings she experienced because of her problem at hand.
“Well, what do you think?” The response by many a man as his female companion listens intently offering no response.
When you see the two processes one after the other it all suddenly makes sense.
For years I had never understood where both sexes were going wrong, a man speaking rather than listening and a woman listening rather than speaking.
Neither sex was getting it wrong, the problem was that both sexes expects the other to respond in the same way as they communicate. When a man speaks about his problems or feelings to other men they expect feedback offering help and advice, hence why they rarely do speak with other men (male pride). When a woman speaks to other women they expect to receive an understanding ear rather than answers. So when a woman speaks to a man about here problems she is expecting him to know what she needs and just be a listening ear, but this goes against his natural instincts and the same for a man speaking with a woman, he is expecting feedback but she is giving him what she would expect just a listening ear.
The simple answer to both is ‘be aware of the way the other sex communicates and to not expect a same sex response.’
A short but sweet blog for today.